*Note: This post has been drafted for so long that I just couldn't find the right time to publish it. But I think it is about time now.*
What I discovered a few months after I joined the book blogging community is Advance Reading Copies or finished copies for review for that matter. At first, I was tremendously jealous of those established book bloggers abroad because of their blog statistics and their massive book mail haul weekly (you would see it here). I can only salivate much HAHAHA! But seriously, I was envious all the time and been so negative about it. But I feel like at this point, I am over it.
I am over the jealous stage not because I have an established blog nor sky rocketing statistics. I am over it because I REALIZED THAT IN THIS "CAREER", YOU REALLY HAVE TO WORK HARD AND BE PATIENT. Followers will come and go, page views will go up and down. But you just have to push yourself and never give up because eventually, you will get there. Which actually leads to my main reason for this post:
It is very difficult to acquire contacts. Those precious email addresses of publicists aren't going to popup anywhere on the internet with just one click. I remember THAT time when I was trying to search for Random House's publicity email which took 5 hours but still, I got nothing. I couldn't find the correct publicity email for my location and honestly? I was DEVASTATED. It was just THAT hard to search for it, so frustrating that I couldn't find such a simple information. I gave up. Then I tried to search for MacMillan US'. But I thought, since I have a friend who has been receiving ARCs already from the said publisher, I asked her DIRECTLY for the email address which luckily, she gave without hesitations. You know what, I felt bad after. I felt that what I did was unfair. THAT friend might have gone through the excruciating way of finding that contact. I REALLY FELT BAD.
ASKING BLUNTLY FOR THE DIRECT EMAIL ADDRESS.
Lately, I've been asked a lot about contact's email addresses. And I thought, why? Why just ask? Why not crack your knuckles and start working on finding one? I don't find it rude if co-bloggers ask me directly for the emails addresses I found but rather suspicious. Just like what Lili mentioned on her post about the same issue, if she did it, why can't other people do the same? I mean, can't you try to at least search on Google or go to the publisher's website and click on CONTACT US? We should do our part as book reviewers -- a lesson learned the hard way. And one part of blogging is BEING HARD WORKING. Don't be lazy (like what I did) and bluntly ask friends for contacts because believe me, it is so hard to find one.
I admit that I traded contacts with friends. It was fun at first and I think it is a fair thing to do but as time goes by, this clever thought came to mind -- I have to stop trading contacts. And what offends me is that a lot of people just revert to asking directly for the info. Nope, won't do it again.
PLEASE REFRAIN FROM DOING IT.
Whether you are an established blogger or a newbie (don't get me wrong, am not even close to being an established blogger), please refrain from asking for direct contacts. What I would prefer to hear at this point probably would be: how-to questions -- How to search for contacts, what key words I used in searching, how do I compose my email etc and I will gladly help! But again, please, DO NOT ask directly for the contacts to simply show respect to what others have worked hard on. Plus, isn't it a little awkward to ask someone you don't even know for such vital info?
These post from Ashley of Nose Graze are definitely helpful:
I am skeptical about publishing this Huddle post because I am afraid some people might find the contents offensive, rude or conceited. I do not intend to offend anyone or directly question blogger's intention. This is merely what I feel/think whenever I get asked to give out contacts.